I know. I’ve struggled with it throughout my life and it still raises its ugly head occasionally. But, not that much anymore, and I’d like to share some insights with you.
Perhaps they’ll help.
As a writer I have spent the majority of my life investigating how Human Beings work, how they communicate, how they think, why they act like, what they do etc., etc., etc. I’ve read widely in the world’s great religions and philosophies, I’ve studied psychology, mythology, languages, quantum physics and blah, blah, blah.
You get the picture.
So, here is the one thing I’ve discovered…
Don’t believe me?
Well, let me ask you. How’s the weather outside? Is it good or bad? Surely, you have an opinion.
OK, I’ll tell you how the weather is outside your house without even being there. The weather just is. It is neither good or bad until you decide what it is.
So what? Big deal.
Well, it actually is a big deal. It’s the biggest deal in the world because this means that your life and the events in it have no meaning until you give it to them. The weather isn’t good or bad until you command it to be. This is because, whether you realize it yet or not, you are the most powerful person in your reality.
There Is No Good Or Bad, But Thinking Makes It So
So what does this have to do with overcoming self doubt? Well, hang on and I’ll get there. It’s not like you have anything better to do anyway, I mean you’re busy being paralyzed by self doubt, aren’t you?
You see your experience of the world and my experience of the world each passes through the filters of our senses and our thoughts and beliefs. This means that you and I can experience the same event but have two completely different experiences of it because we have applied different meanings to it.
Your Experience Of Reality Can Never Be Reality Itself
Would you go to a restaurant and start eating the menu? No. This is because you know that the menu is just a representation of the meal just as your thoughts are a representation of reality…but not reality itself.
You know what this means???
Your self doubt is just an opinion and opinions are, quite literally, make believe. It’s just something you made up in your mind. It is not something that is set in stone for the ages to behold. Your self doubt is simply an opinion and opinions can be changed.
So why are you doubting yourself?
There are probably a number of reasons you don’t think you’re a good writer or can even write at all. But they are all reasons that you, and you alone, give power to.
Moment Of Zen
Before I finish let me pose you a question.
If it’s raining outside is the weather good or bad? To the child who wants to play it is bad. To the farmer who wants to make a living it is good.
Now, obviously we’re not going to solve your problems in the space of a single article. But, now that you are conscious of the problem you can work to overcome it.
In my experience, one of the best ways to overcome your problems is by having a group of supportive, like minded people with whom to share them.
This is what e-novel-advisor is. It’s not just a place to learn about writing, publishing and marketing your books. It’s more than that.
It’s a place to share your writing with others and get constructive criticism. It is a place to pose questions about which direction your story should take next. It’s a place to find friends from all over the world who are going through the same things you are; who have the same doubts you have.
So come join us on the forums. Ask a question. Give an answer. Find a friend. Overcome your problems and become the writer you were born to be.
Remember it was Shakespeare who said “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.”